What Kind of Person Would Feel This Way?

A situation arose that generated some strong feelings about what and how I feel about people and I would be very interested to know how you feel about it as well.

A good friend expressed an interest in doing something professionally with another individual and requested that I allow myself to be casually introduced and to talk with this person to get a read on what I thought about her to the best that a first impression and brief conversation can offer.

My friend knew that I have had a lot of experience and have developed a pretty good instinct about sizing up people and situations, and I agreed to do my best.

One of the human resource interviewing tools that I have always used is to talk about interests and pets. What I quickly learned about this person is that she dislikes and even hates dogs.

Now, do not get me wrong, although that is something like a screech of chalk on an old-fashioned blackboard or aluminum foil in the teeth for me to hear, I realize there are times there could be good reason for such a feeling.

My reply on hearing such an unpleasant declaration was “I am not shocked when someone says that but would you mind telling me why”?

I was hoping the reason was something on a level I could understand such as a bad personal experience resulting in fear.

What I heard in the way of an explanation was very far from something I could feel compassion and understanding for. The reason was…”Their barking at times can lead one to distraction and they make unsanitary messes on the city streets”.

I responded with a reply that went something like…“WE all have voices and barking is one of the ways dogs express themselves to communicate feelings and warnings. I am sure there are a few people you can think of that can also drive one to distraction but you do not hate them, and if there are unsanitary messes on the sidewalk, THAT is the fault of the dog’s guardian and not the dog”. I knew my comments were a waste of time and breath but I already had all I needed to know.

I, like many others, take close to our belief two quotes attributed to Roger Caras, animal-rights activist who served as president of the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals from 1991 to 1999.

“If you don’t own a dog, at least one, there is not necessarily anything wrong with you, but there may be something wrong with your life.”

And…“Dogs are not our whole life, but they make our lives whole.”

If you are reading this you are one of those that already know how enriched our lives become when they are shared with pets who offer appreciation for what we give them along with unconditional love and respect.

I do not have the opinion that you must love dogs or animals, although I personally would think better of you if you do, but I have trouble trusting or identifying with a person who, without fear as a cause, uses the word hate towards such a life form of innocence.

Most people who share or have shared a life with a dog or cat have developed a skill that is vital in my opinion when it comes to getting along with others, and many people are lacking IT in today’s world. I call it the “E” quotient; EMPATHY for others. Yes, there are exceptions to everything but pet owners are often as a general rule a pretty kind and giving group of people.

That is my opinion. Please leave a comment and let me know what you think.
Jay

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37 Responses to “What Kind of Person Would Feel This Way?”


  1. 1 Laurel LaFlamme March 25, 2009 at 5:21 pm

    This person will not make a good employee. I think her problem is she does not like people! Let me explain: “Their barking at times can lead one to distraction and they make unsanitary messes on the city streets”.

    Okay…a barking dog is an uncontrolled by “THE OWNERS” and it is the same with dog poop on some city streets…that’s not the Dog’s fault. That’s lies solely on irresponsible dog ownership.

    So, either subconsciously or consciously, this person does not have a high tolerance for people who are not as responsible as she is! That will not make a great workmate. “Easily distracted” by noise? Good thing she does not want a job on Wall Street.

    I cannot imagine my life apart from the dogs I have had in it. Dogs taught me how to love from when I was a tiny child.

    [My Black Lab let me painfully cut all her toenails off with the scissors when I was 4 years old, per my Mom. She never moved, bit, yelped…she just took it until her toe-toes were bleeding. I didn’t know any better & was left unsupervised. That sweet old girl was my best friend for 14 years! She never betrayed me not once no matter what foul mood I was in…always there, always forgiving.]

    I would never look back on my life and say I could do without either of my two daughters “if I had to do it over again.” It is exactly the same with all the dogs in my life – both owned or fostered.

    This is a truly incredible blog post. They’re all great, but this one just touches a nerve (and the heart).

    I thought about the article and did some research online. I never in a million years have even thought that are so many “dog-haters” in the world. It’s just ludacris some of the things they try to pin on the pooches.

    That kind of heart condition reflects the condition of the nation right now. It’s not the dogs, it’s the people. People have got to learn to love unconditionally. Without that they will never prosper in work, home, relationships, etc.

    I guess I’;m saying, if someone has that much disdain for dogs, it reflects something very telling about “who” they are inside their heart. Hey…we already know “some” people have real issues.

    (Here’s the irony: If those people with “issues” would learn to love unconditionally…they wouldn’t have so many issues.)

    My Book: DOGS ROCK!

    • 2 callofthedog March 25, 2009 at 7:27 pm

      Your comment is a gift of renewal in the goodness of people and deserves an enthusiastic tail-wagging along with applause of appreciation. Many thanks for your reply, Laurel.

    • 3 Margo January 24, 2010 at 11:39 pm

      In my experience, people who dislike animals for no valid reason are not people I want to associate with. Sometimes I have met a person whom I just instinctively mistrusted, only to find out later that they did not like animals. It is inconceivable to me how someone could mistreat or neglect an animal. I volunteer at a local shelter, and it breaks my heart to think that those loving, trusting creatures were not wanted. My own precious pets, 2 cats and a dog, all adopted, are the light of my life and I can’t imagine my life without them.

  2. 4 Judy Rother April 8, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    This person has no real emotions. She has only herself in mind. She would not make a good employee, friend, lover, anything! Whe you are that caught up on yourself you are not even good for yourself!

    Anyone you can truely stated that they HATE dogs, are only half there, not really living, just exsisting!

    This is my humble opinion, I too am asked to read people …

  3. 6 Frances H. April 9, 2009 at 9:27 am

    I cannot imagine my life without having experienced the many dogs sharing it with me. My childhood playmates were the four legged furry friends always glad to see me and always ready to play. Now that my girls are all raised and with families of their own I am once again left with my lovable four legged friends who don’t care if I can run with them anymore or just chose to sit and watch them play. This lady who hates dogs has truly missed a lot of unconditional love in her life which shows through her at this point. I could never truly have any type of relationship whether it be friendship, business, or a deeper feeling with her as I read her as a cold and none sharing person. I feel sorry for her in chosing not to let herself experience all the love shared that she has missed in her lifetime of disliking innoncent animals.

    • 7 callofthedog April 9, 2009 at 9:31 am

      Dear Frances, we are not surprised at your reaction. It simply validates our own. And, it’s very uplifting to hear, and we hope to hear more, from the “amen” choir. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. Best, Lisa & Jay

  4. 8 Carol Collins April 9, 2009 at 10:53 am

    I love all animals, birds, reptiles, insects and marine life. As long as she just hates the dogs and does not do anything cruel to them is one thing. But I have a neighbor who hates all animals and gets great joy out of killing them. I am praying that he is soon to pay for his cruelty. You have hit the nail on the head, she is not fit for the world…so mean. Something is so wrong with her…very deep!

  5. 10 Dawn April 9, 2009 at 1:31 pm

    i believe that anyone who doesn’t have a love for animals has something deeply wrong within. This woman is obviously a lost soul. The unconditional love of a dog is pure joy. My pups are my furry little kids and have taught me so much. Dogs exemplify true love and freindship. They have made my life complete.

  6. 12 deann April 9, 2009 at 8:30 pm

    This is all sooo true, I always say we the people, that love animals, are a different breed of people, compared to those who do not, understand and cannot share or ever know the experience between the human and an animal. I feel sorry for those people. Thank you for a wonderful website, Deann

    • 13 callofthedog April 9, 2009 at 8:42 pm

      Dear Deann, to you and the others that have commented or will comment, we cannot thank you enough. And, to you especially, Deann, for your wonderful compliment about the website please accept our heart-felt thank you. What we do with CalloftheDog is truly a labor of love and to receive a “thank you” for it is just the BEST!

  7. 14 Rita April 10, 2009 at 4:22 pm

    I much prefer my little furbabies and their “unsanitary messes” to many of the humans I know. LOL!!!

  8. 16 Judith April 10, 2009 at 4:30 pm

    My take on that person would be that he/she is hard and not very compassionite. If one hates dogs or any animal, I would steer clear of them. Dogs do so much for us humans and I can’t understand that anyone would hate them or be cruel to them. that person would be one I would not want to be around. I will take a dog any day to someone like that.

  9. 18 Judy Tervalon April 10, 2009 at 9:26 pm

    I totally agree with you. I said the same words to people who makes nagative comments. I just cannot believe in a world with out my four legged friends. I would think human beings would after all these year learn about the love you receive from them.

  10. 20 Gerry April 12, 2009 at 11:41 am

    I can’t understand how anyone could hate and innocent animal. I understand that many people do not care for them and that is all right as long as they do not harm them. I agree that constant barking can be irritating, but it can usually be controlled. As for the mess in the street, if the animal has no place else to go it is probably the fault of a human. I also think, ‘the more people I meet, the better I like my dog.’

  11. 22 jim April 14, 2009 at 8:47 am

    the bottom line is that this woman is totally worthless as a human being. i recognize that there are those who do not love animals as i do, but there is NEVER, under ANY circumstance, a rational reason to hate them. quite seriously, were i driving down the road, and had to make a choice between hitting a dog or hitting you, YOU better be moving. i have four babies, and i would be just as happy with them, and no other human around.
    i don’t have to talk to anyone to know whether they are a worthwhile person. if a dog don’t like them, i know that i don’t want to know them.

    • 23 callofthedog April 14, 2009 at 10:02 am

      Jim, it is terrific that our fur kids have such a strong advocate in their corner as you. But, we think it would be good to realize that we are all living beings and are on different levels of understanding of the importance of our rich and various life forms. That said, all living creatures deserve an element of respect even when it comes to protecting our values from them. However unlikely, people who do not realize may in time come around to realizing the value of life in all its forms, and all we should do is to hope for their gained wisdom.

  12. 24 Lucy De Andrade April 14, 2009 at 9:17 pm

    Under NO circumstances, would I ever hire this person. She is self-centered & would NOT be anything close to being a “team-player” & you MUST be a team player for any business to succeed & prosper.
    Nine years ago (this coming July 2nd) I was given an 18 month old female Beagle when my Marine son was killed. I thought my life was over, she showed me w/her unconditional love, slurps when I cried, & non-stop tail wags, that it wasn’t. It’s been a continual love affair both ways since that day. She saved my life two more times since then when I stopped breathing. I am now on an oxygen machine(thanks to her) @ nite now, due to sleep apnea.
    I just adopted a female poodle from the L.V. Poodle Rescue & these two girls (aged 10 years & 9 years respectively) are my whole world & have themselves wrapped around my heart. I dread the day of the “Rainbow Bridge”

    • 25 callofthedog April 15, 2009 at 9:40 am

      First, we wish to honor you and thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your strength and contribution to our Nation of your most valuable treasure. We collectively shed a tear for the pain of your personal loss at the same time We honor your son’s commitment and dedication that has given us all the gift of pursuing a future of security, liberty, and peace. We pray for your comfort and that of all of our fallen heroes and loved ones. Lucy, Thank you so much for taking the time to share your opinion and your story. Your sharing will go a long way in having us all appreciate the important things.

      With deep appreciation. Lisa & Jay

  13. 26 Ed April 15, 2009 at 8:10 pm

    Wow! Hate is such a strong word and an even stronger feeling. It sometimes overpowers even the best of us but this woman sounded like it was a natural everyday part of her life. Tsk, tsk.

    Never did she consider she would be judged by her expression and by this I mean she didn’t take her remark seriously. She thought ‘who would judge me as a human based on what I feel about an animal’.

    Well young lady, you will never know that you can trust your dogs reaction to other people. You will never know that you can judge a persons character by the way they treat their pets. You will never know unconditional love. You will never know the pleasure of giving a belly rub. You will never know the joy in your heart when you are received by a yapping fuzzy bundle of love that slobbers all over you and wouldn’t care if you just walked on by, it was just sincerely glad to see you and that your in its presence.

    I could go on but I don’t think she’ll ever understand. Its basically summed up by the following and thanks for the opportunity…

    ‘He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion.’ — Author Unknown

  14. 28 Barbara April 16, 2009 at 7:33 am

    I do not understand how people can feel that way. What about a person who owns a dog grooming salon and screams at the dogs to “shut up, you idiots”. I wanted to learn to groom and signed up at this woman’s grooming school. I paid close to $4000.00. The first morning of the class a little border collie in one of the cages barked a little and this woman came flying back to the cage screaming at the dog to shut up. The second time it barked she came back to the dog opened the cage door and began slapping the dog while continuing to yell at it for barking. I thought maybe she thought the dog’s barking was bothering us and I said I don’t mind hearing the dog bark and her reply was:”I don’t allow them to bark here.” I was stunned. I should have walked out then because she also hits the dogs, jerks them on the leashes and body slammed one poor sheltie from the table to the floor, not once but twice. She screamed in the dogs face”you will submit while she was dragging it by a choke chain. I have tried to get the authorities to investigate but no one seems to care. I know this is more comment than you wanted but in short I have no use for people who have no love for animals.
    Barbara

    • 29 callofthedog April 16, 2009 at 9:35 am

      Dear Barbara, you certainly did not comment too much and it was only enough if you said everything you wanted to. With regard to your experience with the groomer, that is disturbing to anyone who would be aware. We don’t know to whom you have reported your experience or if you were alone in your observation, however if you would want assistance in pursuing this matter and who to go to, we would be happy to give you feedback or help. Most states carry laws against animal abuse and it is an obligation to pursue such matters by appropriate authorities. Thank you for your contribution.

  15. 30 Barbara April 16, 2009 at 11:15 pm

    The groomer is in Central SC. I have 5 more weeks and I know that when I leave the abuse will be stepped up again. They slacked off a little bit but it is there beneath the surface. One of the other students told the owner that she would leave if they did not stop abusing the animals. That is the only reason they have not been as abusive this past week. However today a Shih Tsu named Furby and and a black Cocker Spaniel named Gracie were slapped and hit by the assistant teacher. Gracie had to go potty and was whining to let the groomer know she had to go out. The groomer kept hitting her and yelling at her. Finally she just pooped on the table and of course she got hit for doing a natural body function. This school is run by two of the most sadistic people I have ever seen. Why are they even in this business? They are impatient and frustrated with the animals all of the time. If I had not already paid all of the money up front I would have left. Someone needs to go in under cover and get filmed proof of what is going on. I contacted the Pickens County Animal Control and never heard a word back. This groom shop has been there for over 30 years. I just cannot understand why other students have not come forward but maybe it is because they did not have visual proof either. I think if animal control just goes in and asks questions nothing will ever get done. I will welcome all ideas and any help I can get. I have personally witnessed a dog’s mouth cut with the clippers and hit on the head with the clippers. One dog was shoved off the grooming table and was hanging by the leash while the owner screamed at it “How dare you challenge a human?” She then said it was a rescue dog and that the owner would rescue anything that wandered into the yard and she absolutely hated rescued dogs.
    You would have to see this place to believe it.
    Thank you for letting me talk about this and for any ideas of help you can offer.
    Barbara

  16. 32 Cynthia Downer May 12, 2009 at 5:54 pm

    I have total respect for that person. She’s right. Dog’s poop everywhere, and are loud. Some people are okay with it, some people are not. It’s their right to not be. I dislike children. Sure, they may bring joy and happiness to some people’s lives.. But those are the people who get past the fact that kids destroy property, cost a ton of money, and are loud. I can’t get past those things with children, just as well as this lady can’t get past the same thing with dogs. I love my pet rats. Other people hate rats because.. Well, I’m not really sure. Most of it is ignorance, but some people don’t get over the fact that they have a hairless tail or that males may “mark”. I can see how that, too, would be a major inconvenience for some people, but that doesn’t really bother me.
    I love dogs, but it is human nature not to like things that are an inconvenience(that that individual can’t live with) or not exactly the same as us. I generally really don’t like people, but I don’t not like her anymore than I don’t like anybody else.

  17. 34 Lucy De Andrade May 8, 2010 at 9:54 am

    From all communication I have w/you, you realize that my two girls mean the world to me. The female you mentioned above, would never stand an ice cubes chance on a hot sidewalk of getting hired by me. The fact that Cynthia loves her pet rats is a plus in my book. My Georgie would sit on my shoulder & eat one end of a cooked pasta string while I ate the other end, & always ended up getting more of the string than I did, obviously. Georgie was a “rescue” & unbeknownst to any of us, had a stomach tumor that eventually went to the brain. I awoke one morning & all the poor baby could do was go around in circles. To this day, when I think of Georgie, I am still very saddened by the demise of that cute little creation of GOD.

  18. 35 Richard October 9, 2011 at 9:46 am

    My guess is that this woman’s “hate” of dogs has nothing to do with dogs. I never really understood the word “hate”, anyway. From my experience, when someone uses the word “hate”, it is an unknowing confession of something painful about himself. Who knows what pain and suffering lurks in this woman’s past. Perhaps she was viewed as burdensome, messy, loud or she was accused of being the reason that someone (most likely parents) couldn’t do what they wanted to do because of her (distraction) Now she compulsively controls her own behavior and her environment so that no messes or distractions dare enter her reality, otherwise reminding her of her painful beginnings and the misconceptions about herself. It is rather sad.

    I love my dog. What he continues to teach me about myself and life is mesmerizing. One of the things his unconditional and pure love has shown me is to not judge people – even people who don’t like dogs, or children, for that matter. A dislike for either is an indication of pain and a reflection of how he who “hates”, feels about himself.

    I agree that probably the best thing this woman could do is go adopt a dog because it could literally transform her perspective of the world and most importantly, herself. However, the fact that she does’t and will most likely not, doesn’t make her bad or deserving of “hate”, the very thing she needs to let go of.

    As cliche as it sounds – a little bit of love and understanding goes a long way. That is what this woman needs. My dog made me promise to be nice to her if ever she crosses our path. I know he will be.

  19. 37 Sandy Crooms October 9, 2013 at 8:06 am

    I have never understood why a person would not like dogs unless they were tramatized at a point in their life. Even then it is hard because I worked at a vet hospital for 4 years and was bitten by an Akita that was as big as a shetland pony! I was out of work for 3 weeks because it almost went through my hand and I still love all dogs big or small.


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